A Letter to My Husband

Couple holding hands at wedding

Sometimes, with the hustle and bustle of life, we forget what's really important. That's why taking the time to write a simple love note to your partner is an easy way to put the focus back on the foundation that holds your family and life together: your relationship.

Love Letter to My Husband

Wedding rings

Dear Sweetheart,

As Elle Woods said at the end of Legally Blonde, "we did it!" We made it. We're here.

Although no one said that it would be easy, I don't ever remember them telling us how hard it would be, either. And, boy, it's been hard. We haven't had the fairy tale romance I dreamt of as a little girl, nor have we had the Hollywood love affair I fantasized about as an adolescent. But you know what? I'm grateful for that.

What We Have Is Real

You and I have had a real marriage. It hasn't been perfect, and it hasn't been easy and, honestly, it hasn't always been pleasant. But, still, I'm grateful. Because life isn't perfect, and life isn't easy, and life isn't always pleasant. And you and I? We've built a life together.

Through mortgages, layoffs, births, vacations, deaths, retirement plans, health scares and literally every other high and low (and up and down) that one can go through...you've been there with me. You've been my rock. You've been my anchor. You've been my person. Just as our vows said, you've been there for me in good times and in bad. In sickness and in health. You haven't left my side. And I pray you never do.

Marriage Is Hard, but Also Beautiful

Marriage is hard because life is hard, but that doesn't make either any less beautiful. So here's my pledge to you: I'm going to stop concentrating on the hard, and I'm going to start concentrating on the beautiful.

I'm not going to worry so much about the pile of bills on the counter, the washing machine that's leaking, or even the kids' college tuition that we should've started saving years ago. (Like, before we had kids years ago.) And instead, I'm going to concentrate on the here and the now and the blessings. Because we have so many blessings. I'm going to concentrate on remembering to slow down and take time to quite literally smell the roses -- preferably the same roses you planted in the garden when we were newlyweds. Instead, I'm going to remember that life is short, and that tomorrow isn't guaranteed. Chores can wait. Life won't.

Girl writing in her diary

Let's Enjoy the Ride

No one said marriage would be easy. But I'm thankful that it's been hard. I'm thankful because it means this is for real. That we're for real. And that we're going to make it through no matter what. And when you know that, you realize that everything else -- the worries and the struggles and the bills -- can take a backseat on this beautiful ride we're on together.

I love you,
Your wife

Okay, Your Turn

If you're like me and you've gotten caught up in life instead of love, I hope you'll take the time to sit down and pen your special person a letter...or, you know what? Go ahead and use mine. Trust me, I don't mind. We've got to share the love.

A Letter to My Husband