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Ideas for Military Families During Deployment

Marcelina Hardy, MSEd, BCC
Military family

If you or your children are having a difficult time when your service member deploys, deployment ideas for military families can help ease the heartache. Although you know that he is doing something heroic for the country, it can still put a strain on your physical and emotional health. Keeping yourself active with deployment ideas for military families can help you overcome the time you and your loved one have to be apart.

Deployment Ideas for Military Families

The best way to keep your family on track during this difficult time is to keep yourselves busy. Try some of these activities to pass the time.


Cleaning your home after your spouse deploys will keep your mind off him being gone as well as give yourself a sense of pride. Being able to accomplish tasks, such as cleaning, will make you feel as though you can handle things at home while he is away.

Rearrange Furniture

If after your loved one leaves you sit around imagining him all around you, it may help to rearrange the furniture. This way, it will be harder to picture him and you sitting on the couch in front of the television cuddling since the couch is in a different location.


If you have clutter that has accumulated, think of deployment as extra time to organize. This project can take you anywhere from a day to a month, or more. While it may not sound fun, think about how great you will feel that you've gotten rid of so much stuff that you didn't need.

Do a Do-It-Yourself Project

Look around your home and think of some things you would like to change. You can paint walls, change wallpaper, put a border up in a room, or something else to surprise your service member when he comes home.

Meet with Friends

You may have neglected some friends if you've been anticipating your loved one deploying, so now is the time to meet up with friends. Not only will they be a great source of support, but they will also show you a good time so you can get your mind off being separated from your service member.

Take a Trip to Visit Friends and Family

If you have out-of-town friends and/or family, plan to visit them. They will love to see you and it's a fun way to spend time apart from your partner.

Get Involved in Ombudsman Activities

Military families plan many activities while their loved ones are away. Get involved in these activities because people who understand exactly what you are going through will surround you.

Make a Schedule

Another way to stay busy is to make a list of things you need and want to do, and make a schedule to get them done.

Try New Things

If you have a difficult time filling your schedule, try out new things in your community. Take a class, volunteer, become involved in a church or participate in fun local activities. These new activities will keep you busy and you'll meet new people.

Deployment Ideas to Stay Connected with Your Service Member

Staying connected to your loved one is important for you and him. It helps make the time apart easier for both of you, and it gives him extra support to get him through difficult times while working.

Send a Care Package

Take advantage of the ability to send care packages. Don't only buy things to put in it, but also make things so it keeps you busy and reminds you of the love you share.

Send Informational Emails

Along with your emails about loving and missing him, write about your days. Many service members feel unneeded and disconnected from their families. Keep him up to date on what is going on and ask him questions about the house, children or anything you need. It will help strengthen the bond you share and help the transition when he comes home.

Use Video Chat

Technology has helped many military families stay connected. Using video chat is the next best thing to having him home again. While the connection isn't always great, it's much better than what military families had to endure decades ago with only having letters to send, which often took weeks to receive.

Make Homecoming Plans

Plan a trip or just some special things for you and him to do when he comes home. Talk about it with him and both of you will find it exciting and such a great motivation to get through the separation and reunite to spend time together.

You Can Get Through Deployments

While deployments are never easy, they can be easier to deal with than you anticipate. Once you know what to do during the separation from your partner, you will feel much more empowered and confident that this is just another period of time to get through so you can be reunited with your loved one again. Learning to cope with military life doesn't have to be a solitary process; seek advice from fellow military members and their spouses and take their tips and experiences to heart.

Ideas for Military Families During Deployment